To Break the Monotony

Looking far back, I remember that I intended for this blog to have more uplifting, encouraging and enlightening content. But as Murphy's Law would dictate, it's usually one unfavourable event after another.

It's been an unconventional life going for me these past few years. Through it all, I am grateful to God who has seen me through every part of it. Despite my disobedience and defiance in certain aspects of my life, He still accepts me when I repent. The evidence is that He still blesses me through providence to get by day to day.

I have learned and do admit that I am a man who should not be trusted with power. It turns me arrogant and causes me to do dumb stuff. After having learnt it the hard way, I am pretty content with my life's situation and would never ever again ask God, why I am poor.

Though it is my desire to start a family, I do pray that God would extend His providence to my future children as well. Although I believe that I still have some lessons more before I am ready to be a parent.

Misogyny, Misandry and Sundry

Since the most recent and tragic incident - where some guy murdered a bunch of girls in a sorority house, while killing innocent bystanders along the way, which yes, included other males as well - a lot of girls and women alike, some proudly donning the feminist label, have taken the opportunity, jumping on the bandwagon to berate about the evils of misogynistic men... or just men, by their definition. To some of them, it may as well be synonymous. And this is something I find impudent.

If these people - noticed I am referring to a selected group, neither generalising nor stereotyping - would be so kind as to be more specific in their gripes instead of implying that “all men are like that”, we wouldn’t have an issue. I would even be more open to understanding them had they actually contributed personal experiences as to what made them have those point of views where all men are misogynists; all men don’t respect women; and whatever else claims of the same effect.

By now to some it may be obvious that a generalising statement on “men” - just because some carry themselves poorly - speaks volumes about the accusers. If there is one thing that the accusers have in common, is that they all have issues with the opposite gender, which, I believe stems from home. Or some may have even adopted the cause second hand, just because others are doing it.

Let’s not forget, that we all have our own issues, our own history and how they influence us to be who we are today. Some people choose to learn from experiences, becoming better individuals, some just revel in articulating themselves as victims of circumstances.

More often than not, these articles, whether written by male or female, keep going on and on about the male for committing an atrocious act against the other gender. They keep poking and analysing over the fact that the guy committed the act and judge - yes I said judge - the guy for the crime(s), which he committed. They never bother to study the history of the person as what may have contributed to him becoming who he is. Nobody cares about that. Everybody just wants to get on their high horse and verbally lynch the guy.

I cannot claim to be without fault. But can the rest of them do so? Who are they to use people involved in the incidents as their metaphorical pinata, to run their mouths off, figuratively behind their backs, in the safety and comforts of anonymity behind their screens. And just because of them, how did the accusers lead to stereotyping every other guy as the same?

Yes, the most recent incident of the guy who killed a bunch of people, with spotlight and emphasis on the sorority girls, was indeed a terrible incident. But must other guys, receive a carpet bombing treatment if only to satiate these accusers and their insatiable anger, despite how said incident never affected them directly at all?

Instead of mindlessly condemning others, why not be appreciate that there are others who aren't as such? And be thankful that what we read in the news, is not a common thing. Since it's not a common thing, why do they need to whinge as though it is?

When you stereotype and generalise others, you bring yourself down. When you paint everybody with the same brush and colour, don’t complain about how it all looks the same. Perhaps it's because the perpetrator was on the receiving end of being stereotyped and despised in the first place, which led him to cause such a tragic act. Think about it.

Is your reaction of hate, perpetuating this cycle?

Dishonesty Veiled

Dishonesty has always been one of my greatest hate. If a war could be waged upon it, I would gladly lead that war in the front lines.

How is it that people can lie through their teeth without blinking an eye. Better yet, how are they able to believe in their own fabrication to the point it has become reality in their minds. They rather face believe their lies than to face the real truth and accept responsibility for their actions.

With such people who refuse to be accountable for their actions, how can anybody entrust anything important to them? Important things, like friendship and love. There is nothing to stop them from stabbing you as they see your back.

Liars will go all out of their way to embellish their story or false alibi in hopes of selling you their story, and hope you pay for it, with your trust, and more. For every question to their questionable action, they will always have some sort of excuse or "cover line" of which to evade the subject at hand.

They say action speaks louder than words... There is a good reason for that saying which lives on until this very day. A person who is trustworthy, does not need to sell himself. People will know through the consistency of his actions. Consistency. Perseverance.

If it's too good to be true, it probably is. I am a firm believer of working for my gain. Whatever I have, is through "toiling the earth" the honest way. You can only go so far in being dishonest.

Nothing good can start from deception and betrayal. And nothing will end well because of it.

Whoever loves righteousness, hates wickedness. Whoever loves wickedness, hates righteousness.

You cannot escape the truth, so might as well live responsibly because we all will face judgment in the end.

Another Year, Another Bunch of Resolutions

The year of 2010 has sped by ever so quickly that I still cannot say enough how much I am amazed that it was over just like that. My reason for not blogging actively in the previous site started out from merely being lazy while alluding that I was busy.

The joke was on me when I eventually did become so occupied that I had little time of leisure to myself - I was working way past office hours and even on weekends and holidays. Yes I think I am entitled to some bragging of just how busy I was.

This year will not be any easier. As my boss says, one must continue up one's career. This of course means more responsibilities and ideally taking on higher level of responsibilities and getting somebody else to take over your current role. I can only pray that God has something in plan.

Other than work, work and more work... It was pretty eventful both in business and personal life. I may just share about them in future postings. Might be a good way to fill up days where I have nothing current to post. Like how they resort to filling up gaps in episodes of TV series with flashbacks. Hah!

Anyway, one of my intentions of this new site is to reset my attitude and tone in postings. Previously as you know, I was all about being cynical, skeptical, satirical and all those darkish stuff that people might not understand or appreciate.

As time goes by, one has gained much more experience and insight into living. Just as the years would have given more inspiration and ideas to improve a story, like so many remake of movies and series we have seen happening lately. I decided to reboot my postings and hopefully give them a more positive and enlightening flavour.